Spring is a lovely reminder of how beautiful change can truly be. So this spring, I am doing something different. I am embracing change for all it’s worth. Change in my habits, change in my outlook on life and any sort of change I might come across in my daily life.
Recently, I have been doing a lot of thinking about life in general and where I am in this moment. In the course of this examination, there are certain things I could possibly have done better growing up. So this blog post is dedicated to “advise for my younger self” and hopefully you too can benefit from this. Next month, I turn a new age and with age comes growth, so here are some things I wish I could tell my younger self.
1) All is well that ends well. Life is a bit slow sometimes, maybe even most days. However, the truth of the matter is that life happens and it only happens for a short period in time. At age 23, I graduated with a masters degree but my degree came with sweat and tears. I worked two jobs and I went to school. I applied for graduation and didn’t realize I had an extra class to take before I could graduate. I only realized this after my last semester had begun. I knew nothing was going to stop me from graduating, so I sent emails to my advisor everyday and registered for a minimester online class, so that I could still graduate in the Spring as planned.
When I first found out changes in my graduation plans, I was extremely devastated and had made up my mind I was not going back to school in fall just for one class. I was over school already and at that point, I felt my whole world crumbling and everything I had worked hard for not coming together. My course was a two year course, but I completed it in a year and a half, so there was absolutely no way I was going to let one class stop me from not completing my degree.
A year down the line, I look back and smile because so much has happened since then and that scenario out of many is one that constantly reminds me that “life happens” and when things arn’t going as planned, it always gets better. This leads me to my number 2 point …
2) Your hardwork in school will be worth it. However, do not kill yourself. School is fun while it lasts, but it can also be overwhelming. Take your time and do things right but do not beat yourself up just because you are failing at one subject. Instead, meet with your teachers, professors, advisors, friends or whoever it is that can help you get through your class. Expressing your concern and willingness to learn always goes a long way in your educational career.
3) Smile through it all and let nobody tell you, “you are not good enough”. Growing up in highschool, I had horrible acne and my breakouts seemed to be louder than my beauty. In 7th grade, I let the guys in high school determine who I was and what I looked like. Eight years down the line and look at me now. The truth of the matter is people will bully you, talk about you and do so much to you – it’s in cases like this you really need to know who you are and what you are about. These times will strengthen you and if you can pull through, you can pull through almost anything. Confidence is key and you need to wear it with pride because life will get you down in so many ways, but your strength will pull you through.
4) Speak. Best believe you are not the only individual on earth that feels a certain way and you will not be the last. It is important to find people who you can speak through situations with, family and close friends are always the better option. Find someone you trust, because when you let things out, you feel so much lighter.
5) Don’t be gullible. Trust people, but with a pinch of salt. Some of your closest people are actually the ones that will betray you and upset you more often than not. Times like these are the times that remind you how much independence matters, because when people show you who they really are, you’ll need to sometimes walk away and this can’t happen if you are dependent on them for one thing or another.
6) Save. It is never ever too early to start saving. When friends of your parents or your aunties and uncles give you money – save that paper. Resist letting your parents have the funds because the truth of the matter is that you will never get it back from them (only in very few cases). Ask them to open an account on your behalf where you can save all the money given to you until you are able to make your own. Savings come in very handy, especially on a rainy day.
7) Get out of your comfort zone. Resist from being shy, get out of your comfort zone. Go for community events and meet people. Do not force friendships but be open enough to accept the next person into your life if you both connect on the same values. Relationships are very important in life and they play a huge role in your older self.
8) Do not keep thinking about how others hurt you. Free your mind of all the negative things people do to you. I tend to remember things a lot and close in on people who hurt me. However, learning to forgive and forget what people do to you will help you progress in life and also make you happier.
9) Pray. Find yourself and pray. Pray everyday and not just on Sundays. Pray every second and not just when you need things. Life is tough and prayer saves you. Pray even just to be thankful.
10) Just Do You. Finally, just do you and be you. Do not let go of your younger self because that will be the purest and most innocent phase of yourself you will always be. Ps: People recognize real and would love you for your innocence in due time.
That being said, these are only a few things I would tell my younger self in this moment. Things change, and this time next year I might have a totally different list of things I would like my younger self to know. Grateful for spring and moments like this, because not only am I able to spring clean my environment and self, I am able to wear much lighter clothing with brighter colors and floral patterns. Like my look? Shop the items in the carousel below.
Thank you for reading xoxo
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